Today (July 20th) would have been Mom and Dad's 31st anniversary. I'm not quite sure how I feel or what to say about it, but I feel the need to acknowledge it here.
Dad's fine - he was a bit bummed out last year, since it would have been their 30th, but this year he's all right. He's working today, so that will keep him busy and his mind occupied. In the past few months, I've come to realize that he's moved on. I know he misses Mom very much and thinks about her constantly, but the pain is going away and you can tell he can talk more openly about her now. Well, he always did, but he can now do so without becoming tinged with sadness.
Another tell-tale sign is that when he talks to his buddies on the phone, all they talk about is their woman problems. It's actually quite amusing! He's met a few women he's taken interest in, but they've either strung him along and kept their foot in the door (like my friend S. - but Dad has officially decided to no longer pursue her) or they've turned out to be complete battle-axes once he got to know them.
Anyway, I'm not sure if we're doing anything special... I'm going to mention having dinner at Cracker Barrel tonight, but only if he feels like driving that far when he gets home from work.
I think my Mom has moved on too. She can talk about Daddy without crying now. You know, my parents' anniversary was on the 15th and it just came and went without notice.
posted by: newbie (reply)
post date: 07.20.05 (11:58 am)
Reply to: dangerkitty
That's good... how do you feel about it? Has she started dating or taken interest in doing so again?